frame 45 November 2023

Grandad - A tribute to Barry Cryer
by Ruby Cooper


Barry Cryer: Same Time Tomorrow? The Life and Laughs of a Comedy Legend - published on the 26th October by Bloomsbury

In our latest FRAME, Ruby Cooper, the granddaughter of the late comedian Barry Cryer, shares anecdotes about the man behind the jokes, in honour of his biography written by her uncle, Bob Cryer.

Barry Cryer: Same Time Tomorrow? is not just a wonderfully witty and affectionate biography of a father by a son, but a heartwarming insight into a vanishing era of comedy.

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It’s been a year and a half since I said goodbye to the funniest man in my life; my grandad, Barry Cryer.  

There are so many things I could talk about but I’ll keep it short and sweet, (something he never did – there was always one more joke…) He and my Grandmother Terry were always in my life – from my babyhood onwards. Some memories are too far back to recall but when I was very little my mother, actress and singer Jack Cryer, did the musical interludes with Colin Sell for a show that Grandad used to do with Willie Rushton. It was called ‘Two Old Farts in the Night’. When not backstage in their dressing rooms, I spent a lot of time sitting at the side of the stage laughing along, even though I probably understood a fraction of the jokes. 

My father, Garry Cooper, is also an actor and I would often spend the night at my grandparents while my parents were working on their various shows.  Grandad himself would normally return late from an after-dinner speech, show or recording of ‘I’m Sorry I haven’t A Clue’. I was sleeping in a small pull-out bed in their room, so I would hear him – if not just see him, later. The next morning, I would wait for him to get up and then we would sit at the dining table, eating our cheese and crumpets, while he read the Daily Mail. He often got material from it – rich pickings! 
After breakfast, we would walk down the road to Safeways, me for sweets and Grandad for Consulate cigarettes. Always Consulates.  He would smoke the cigarettes and use the box to write new jokes and ideas on – filofag!    

Ruby with Terry and Barry Cryer at Edinburgh Zoo

On a couple of occasions, my grandparents, Mum, step-dad and brother, all went up to the Edinburgh Festival together. However, when I reached my teens I started to go up on my own, just with Grandma and Grandad. Having already caught the theatrical bug, I would act as his stage manager and help get the stage set up before his show. We would frequent the bar after the show at the Gilded Balloon. He always had people coming to say hello, old friends, new comedians wanting advice or to just hear one of his jokes. He was so welcoming and kind to everyone. I loved listening to him talk to and about all the amazing people he wrote for and worked with – he was a show biz legend. 

When I moved up to Yorkshire it became even more of a treat to travel down South to Hatch End  and spend time with them there. I missed being close to them - and to the place I had known so well all my life. 

He and Grandma came up to Scarborough to visit a visit us a few times, once being while I was pregnant with my daughter, Isobel. As a family, we went for a walk along his childhood haunt, Filey beach. We all chatted away and I asked Granddad a question – silence. We stopped and looked around. Finally, we saw him, some way back, parked on a bench and eating a Mr Whippy. He looked as happy as Larry.

I miss him.

Ruby with her grandfather Barry Cryer